Most Effective Tactics for a Happy Ever After

So how do you get from wherever you are in your marriage to Happily Ever After? 

Admire Him

Our men want to know we still think they’re fantastic guys. As their wives, we can complement our husbands in ways we don’t want another woman to say or do.

Let’s tell our guys the good qualities we see in them and ignore the rest. Compliment your man on his personality, physical characteristics, the way he guides the children, and great work habits.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. ~Proverbs 31:12

Accept Him

God asks us to accept our husbands as Christ accepts us. We didn’t become their personal Holy Spirit when we married them, and it’s not our responsibility to improve our men. 

Let’s prove our acceptance and stop trying to change them.

Gals, nagging doesn’t work. It usually irritates our guys and even causes unnecessary arguments. Try talking it out instead, and remember your way isn’t the only right way.

True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision. ~M. Scott Peck

Adapt to His Leadership

God gave our husbands the role of leaders with the responsibility to protect and provide for us. It’s our responsibility as wives to figure out how to do things our husbands’ way and not lose our own identity.

Discussing the life-changing issues with our husbands as they arise allows us to explore both perspectives of a situation. Our viewpoint provides our men with information and insight they need to make the best decisions as they consider the whole family’s needs.

For wives, this means being devoted to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife as Christ provides leadership for His church. ~Ephesians 5:22-23 The Passion Translation

Don’t allow any illegal, immoral, or physically abusive actions in your marriage. If you’re in danger, seek outside assistance immediately.

This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Joyce Zook

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Joyce Zook is an award-winning author, international speaker, and Board Certified Advanced Christian Life and Marriage Coach. She is a weekly video blogger and the author of 12 Keys for Marriage Success, Priorities for Life, and God and Your Closet. Joyce speaks, teaches, and coaches women to love their lives and their marriages while creating success and balance. In the last twenty years, her ministry has grown with the help of the internet, telephones, and video conferences to reach people across the United States and in foreign countries.

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