Overcoming the Victim Mentality 

Successful people are rarely victims.

If you have a history of helping or fixing others, you will attract victims!

Victims will drain you with their endless stories of how others have wronged them, and how they can never catch a break. Victims will cause you to burn out by their constant neediness. Victims do not want to discuss solutions to their problems but will exhaust them to the end by repeatedly blaming others for their misery.

Those with a victim mentality have difficulty expressing and processing negative emotions.

Victims have a core belief that life is out of their control, and this results in hopelessness and helplessness.

Victims will blame any and every scapegoat such as circumstances or other people.

Victims often live in one crisis after another, and never see their part in the crisis.

A person with a victim mentality does not make any effort to learn from their mistakes, and others’ actions excuse them from taking responsibility.

Becoming a victor instead of a victim:

1. Take responsibility for every action and circumstance in your life. You may not be able to control your circumstances, but you can control your responses. When you embrace this attitude, life’s circumstances will no longer control you because you are free to choose how you will respond.

2. Do not surrender power over your life to others. In other words, do not let your life be driven by your environment but by your inner attitude that you get to choose.

3. Understand the world owes you nothing, and believing you have certain “rights” will lead to disappointment and anger.

4. If you are ready to move on with your life and get unstuck you must stop blaming others for your woes. When you blame others, you leave yourself powerless.

5. Recognize that from time to time you may feel sorry for yourself, just don’t camp there! Everyone will face challenges in life but don’t go sit in a corner and “nurse your wounds” over and over.

6. Start looking for the good in the situations that cause you to complain or to blame. Take your power back! Don’t give any person or circumstance that much control.

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This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Stephanie Reck

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Stephanie Reck provides life coaching services to women to help them get unstuck from life's challenges and move towards their purpose in God using 1:1 coaching sessions, courses, books, articles blogs, and videos. It is her mission to see women healed and whole through the work of the Holy Spirit and apply prayer, scriptures, deliverance, and/or a word of encouragement as the Holy Spirit directs to redirect women back to their first love, Jesus Christ.

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