As a parent, the desire to “get it right” often becomes an absorbing quest. In the pursuit of this elusive perfection, we can find ourselves swayed by ever-changing societal expectations and cultural norms. From obsessively tracking developmental milestones to striving for the latest parental ideals, we can lose sight of what truly matters. Reflecting on two decades of parenting, I’ve realized the wisdom in shifting our focus from cultural trends to embracing a more eternal perspective in parenting.

1. Embracing a Heavenly Blueprint for Parenting

Proverbs 22:6 offers a gracious invitation to see our children through the Creator’s lens, rather than the culture’s. The verse calls us to initiate our children into life’s journey, acknowledging their unique design and potential. This approach helps us focus on giving our children a taste of the journey ahead, tailored to their God-given design and capabilities.

2. Training for the Ultimate Destination

The biblical view of life as a journey means recognizing that the ultimate destination for believers is perfection in eternity. Our culture, with its emphasis on immediate perfection and achievement, often loses sight of this eternal perspective. As parents, we’re called to guide our children through life’s varied terrain, teaching them to navigate its challenges with faith and resilience.

3. Practical Advice for Nurturing Faithful Travelers

Here are some practical ways we can train our children for their lifelong sojourn:

• Pack Lightly for the Journey: Teach your children to value spiritual richness over worldly materialism and perfectionism. Show them the joy of simplicity and the beauty of God’s presence.
• Embrace Unique Design: Celebrate your children’s gifts and limitations as part of God’s wonderful plan. Help them understand their worth is not measured in achievements but in their identity as God’s creation.
• Prepare but Hold Plans Loosely: Equip your children to make plans that align with their God-given talents, yet teach them to hold these plans with open hands, ready for God’s redirection.
• Equip with Scripture and Spirit-led Guidance: Immerse your children in the Scriptures and teach them to rely on the Holy Spirit as their guide, much like a compass or a GPS for life’s journey.
• Set Their Sights on a Heavenly Homeland: Cultivate in your children a longing for their eternal home. Encourage them to live as sojourners on earth, seeking a heavenly country.

4. Parenting in the Trenches: Embracing Imperfection

My parenting journey, through the joys and challenges of raising four unique children while grieving the loss of loved ones, has taught me that there is no one-size-fits-all formula for parenting. Each child’s path is distinct, and our role as parents is not to conform them to societal ideals, but to guide them toward their eternal home with God.

Conclusion: Journeying Together Toward Perfection

Our role as parents transcends cultural pressures and temporal achievements. It’s about guiding our little sojourners along the path God has uniquely designed for them, pointing them toward the ultimate goal of eternal perfection with Him. Let’s discard the weight of societal expectations and embrace the liberating task of nurturing souls for their heavenly journey.

This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Faith Activist

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About the Author

Pastor James Costa earned his degree in Theology from the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas. After graduation, he dedicated his career to serving as a pastor in Waco, Texas. Pastor James founded Faith Activist during the COVID-19 pandemic when he faced challenges in reaching people due to the lockdowns. He realized the potential of digital media to connect with people and spread the message of the gospel, leading him to create an online platform to help people grow in their faith and engage with other believers.

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