You might be familiar with all the feelings of burnout or emotional exhaustion; constant overwhelm, a cynical attitude, a mind that won’t turn off, and just complete unrest. Unfortunately, your marriage can be one of the things that might be driving you to all that emotional exhaustion. And if that is the case, it’s time to make some changes.
It might be your marriage draining you if…
- You’re the only one investing in your marriage. You’re the one wanting and planning the date nights. You’re the one wanting to fix things and make your relationship better.
- You’re the one running the whole show. All the chores, all the mundane tasks that make your household run are all falling on you.
- You often feel like a single parent. Your spouse is relying on you to be the primary caretaker, bath giver, meal planner, and homework overseer.
- You’re constantly worried about your marriage issues. You’re finding it hard to think about anything other than what’s going on at home and in your marriage.
- There’s an obvious lack of affection and sex. You’re disconnected and you know it. Your desire for your spouse is lacking, or perhaps you’re feeling resentful that their desire isn’t. They want sex and you don’t, or neither of you has any interest.
- You can’t seem to have a conversation without it turning into a fight. Regardless of your best effort, everything you talk about takes a negative turn.
You no longer feel like yourself in their presence. You may find yourself just wanting to be alone instead of with them. Just being around them is anxiety-inducing.
If you’re experiencing any of these signs it’s time to get a plan of action together. That may mean asking for some professional help, the help of a mentor couple, or just choosing to tackle these issues one at a time. 3 Things to Do When Your Marriage is Struggling, is a simple place to start. Just decide to do something, because if left unresolved, any one of these struggles could leave you resentful, depressed, anxiety-ridden, isolated, and, well, emotionally exhausted. And that won’t be good for you or for your marriage.
It’s time to make some changes!
This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Expedition Marriage
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