4 Easy Steps to Clarify Conflict

Help for gaining perspective.

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Today I want to share a simple 4 step plan that I refer to for perspective after I’ve just had a conflict with my husband or someone else. Although it has come in handy with others that I’ve been in conflict with, it gets used most often with my hubby, since he’s, unfortunately, my prime conflict partner!

These four steps bring greater clarity to my heart and mind because conflict seems to cause confusion and usually triggers emotions that I allow to plunge me into denial and deception.

If you feel like these steps would be helpful to you, then get out that trusty index card or note-taking app on your smartphone and record them there to carry with you wherever you go!

Step One –
Realize and remind myself:
(Spouse’s name) is not my enemy and only hurt.”

Step Two –
Pray for God to give me perspective on this conflict and reveal the hurtful purposes of my heart.

Step Three 
Ask myself and God:

  • What have I done to hurt (Spouse’s name) or respond wrong?
  • What do I need to do to change and improve?

Step Four –
Apologize for my part and leave the conviction of my spouse’s sin up to God!

Now, it’s your turn!

What do you do to clear the clutter during times of conflict?

 

This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Worthy Bible Studies

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About the Author

My husband, Gary and I have been married for 33 years and counting! We have three handsome sons, Jordan, Graham and Braden, as well as, our newest family member, Sarah, Jordan’s new wife and our “daughter-in-love!” I just love living this messy life with all of them and especially with the One who redeems all of our many messes—Christ!

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