In this episode, we talk about where the Wilkes are seeing God’s fingerprints in their community, and how they are practically creating opportunities for their community to experience real relational connection.
In this episode, listen in as Lissa and Laran dive into the nuts and bolts of daily living and growing in these new relational skills.
“We are told to love our neighbor as ourselves, but we are never told how to love ourselves…what we have learned through doing the Co-Labs with you, is what was intended… in how we were supposed to be cared for…” — Laran Wilke
“When we started developing those (relational) skills, and becoming more relational toward her, (our youngest daughter), we became Gentle Protector for her. ” ~ Sylvia Snodgrass
Listen as they explain how Relational C0-Labs and its practices have brought them closer to God, themselves, and each other, how it has changed the way they connect to their adult kids, and how their kids have experienced their change.Â
Discover the true meaning of love and how attachment to each other and God is at the center.
One thing that Britton and Michelle noticed was that no matter where they encountered others on this journey, there was one common thread: the struggle to connect relationally with those close to them.
Britton and Michelle are helping pastors move from “managing the institution” to a more life-giving form of ministry, where your home is the hub for worship, discipleship, and mission.
“The way we often try to love people is by fixing them…If we can just be with them and learn how to be with them…that is what transforms people!” — Chris FrostÂ
From their Senior Leader on down, Chris Frost and Des Belford, Pastors at The Summit Church Edmonton, have seen a shift in relational connection and openness to each other. Â
Listen in as the guests talk about how they have seen the Fingerprints of God transforming their own families and how the understanding of Joy, the gladness to be with, and simple tools and skills have deepened connection at their church.Â
In this episode, they discuss what it looks like when Elders are leading from fear. They will also talk about Elders who are motivated by love can create communities where Love, joy, and trust are fully alive.
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the 7-17-70 rule in community, and why know the stories of others are so crucial to feeling connected. Also, learn what his dream for community looks like in family and church.
In this episode, learn how Geoff and Cyd run together to bring wholeness and understanding to the body of Christ.
See how God’s fingerprints have transformed, strengthened and grown their marriages more that any of them could imagine!
“…Life actully got a lot better when I could see him (Geoff), as he is and go, ‘Wow! You are fantastic the way God made you…” — Cyd Holsclaw
“In the last nine months or so, the atmosphere has shifted. The change hasn’t been a physically tangible thing that can be observed, but something is shifting… I’m going to be looking for that more.” — Jane Gamroth
Listen in as they talk about how being a part of Relational Co-Labs has changed the way they relate to God, themselves, and others.Â
Ken and Jane Gamroth take us on there journey to relational health and give us some insights on how it has transformedand and is transforming their marriage, family, and church! Â
Learn how being in the Co-Lab has impacted Hannah Scaringi’s life and left the Fingerprints of God in all of her relationships!
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the importance of building joyful social connection with elders and how healthy multigenerational community and toxic, and/or secretive multigenerational communities look very much the same but produce polar opposite results.
In this episode, Hannah Scaringi shares some key personal insights that have changed how she sees and relates to God, herself, and others! Learn how understanding Joy has completely transformed her life.Â
Dr. Warner gives incredible insight into his own personal journey to becoming an elder in his own right. What he shares is critical for all of us to hear today.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they conclude their conversation with Varinia Lauzon. Listen in as Varinia talks about her role in creating Table and Well in Español, and how this process is transforming her life.Â
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection.
“I am looking to make all relationships permanent…Whatever we grow together, I want to make sure that it is something we can keep and we can use as an example for other people on how they should live their lives.” — Dr. Jim Wilder
“The kingdom of God; we know it’s here when Predators or changed into protectors. That is the key sign of transformation. ” Dr. Jim Wilder
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin this conversation and this series with Dr. Jim Wilder, neurotheologian, psychologist, and author whose groundbreaking work in relational brain science has shaped the way we understand community, joy, and emotional health and the reason Table and Well is doing the work they are.Â
Discover the importance of having God-sight for you community as elders, and how connection with Holy Spirit is essential for the health and life of your community.Â
In this conversation, we’ll talk about how elders can serve as relational anchors, how spiritual maturity and emotional health go hand-in-hand, and how communities can better recognize and respond to the wisdom in their midst.
Whether you’re stepping into elderhood yourself or learning to receive from those who have gone before you, this episode will inspire you to reimagine what’s possible when generations walk together in wholeness.
“(Elders remind us)…we can do this. We can stay at the table a little bit longer than we think we can… We are going to push ourselves, (to stay present) a little bit beyond what we thought we could do, and that’s enough…” ~ Amy GlaserÂ
“The reason a lot of that stuff, (trauma), happened in our family is because we didn’t know how to build joy, how to quiet together, or keep our relational circuits on.” ~ Amy GlaserÂ
“Whenever two people come into a relationship or any situation, they are meeting history to history and nerves system to nerves system… only a small part of what seem to be happening in this external thing is about what is happening right now.” ~ Amy GlaserÂ
Listen in as Marlene talks about her dream for what a growing, healthy community looks
In this episode, Tennison and Ginelle continue their conversation with Marlene Allen and discuss how elders can prevent, protect, and even heal individuals from church hurt. Also, what does it look like to be an Elder in the Kingdom?
Elders who are deeply rooted, know who they are, and can see those around them through the eyes of heaven are invaluable in their community.Â
As elders also share stories of how it is for us to act, they create safety and security for the community at large.Â
Elders also fill the holes in the community that arise because of the immaturity that is present.Â
“Elders by definition have a really well developed right brain skill set…they know how to model a secure attachment,…attune to others emotions even if they don’t agree with what happened,…very good at seeing the gold in a person…” — Michel Hendricks
“Gentle Protectors are willing to share in the pain that they create…Predators want to put their pain on you so they don’t feel any of it.” — Jen Coursey
In this episode, they discuss what it looks like when Elders are leading from fear. They will also talk about Elders who are motivated by love can create communities where Love, joy, and trust are fully alive.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin a conversation with Chris and Jen Coursey, Authors and founders Thrive Today. Listen in as they talk about their personal journey into the elder stage.Â
In this episode, they discuss what it looks like when Elders are leading from fear. They will also talk about Elders who are motivated by love can create communities where Love, joy, and trust are fully alive.
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the 7-17-70 rule in community, and why know the stories of others are so crucial to feeling connected. Also, learn what his dream for community looks like in family and church.
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the importance of building joyful social connection with elders and how healthy multigenerational community and toxic, and/or secretive multigenerational communities look very much the same but produce polar opposite results.
Dr. Warner gives incredible insight into his own personal journey to becoming an elder in his own right. What he shares is critical for all of us to hear today.
“I am looking to make all relationships permanent…Whatever we grow together, I want to make sure that it is something we can keep and we can use as an example for other people on how they should live their lives.” — Dr. Jim Wilder
“The kingdom of God; we know it’s here when Predators or changed into protectors. That is the key sign of transformation. ” Dr. Jim Wilder
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin this conversation and this series with Dr. Jim Wilder, neurotheologian, psychologist, and author whose groundbreaking work in relational brain science has shaped the way we understand community, joy, and emotional health and the reason Table and Well is doing the work they are.Â
In this episode, they explore what happens when people are placed into the position of elder before they are mature enough to be there. When you look across the landscape of the Christian world, you see this everywhere.
Elders need to have a community to belong to and be recognized by that community. There is a fundamental need for elders.
The Elder stage of Maturity is the most crucial and least reached stage of maturity. Without True Elders in our community, we fail to know who we are and how it is for us, as humans, to act.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their journey through the Parent stage.
You will know you are at the parent stage when you can sacrificially care for your children or the next generation without resenting the sacrifice with joy or expecting to receive anything for your efforts.
In this episode, listen in as Tennison and Ginelle dig deep into the parent stage tasks that need to be completed by all in this stage to be fully mature. There is work that we must do on this journey to maturity. Continue the Journey!
Discover the needs that every parent will need from their community to be fully mature in this stage. Just like every stage, you fully mature over time.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they conclude the Adult stage of maturity and look at some of the obvious holes that you will see in adults who have not fully matured in this stage. Learn the importance of community and the benefits it brings as you grow into a mature adult!
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue to unpack the Adult stage of maturity. In this episode, they will lean into the Adult stage needs and tasks in order to be fully mature in this stage of maturity. Â
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin the next stage of maturity— the Adult Maturity Stage. Listen in as they unpack the early years this stage and the three most important this to “young adults”; Relationship, Power and Truth.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they conclude the Child stage of maturity. Listen in as they unpack the personal and community tasks and needs you can engage in that will help you and others fill any gaps you or others may have in this stage of maturity.
Listen in as they discuss the obvious maturity gaps you will see in adults who are not fully mature in this stage, what Pseudo maturity looks like and its effect on adults who operated in this place as children.Â
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their journey through the Child Stage of maturity. Listen in as they discuss the tasks that need to be done by individuals in this stage to be a fully mature child.Â
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin unpacking the child stage of maturity and talk through the needs (what we need from our community) in order to be fully mature in this stage of life.Â
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin to explore the connection between Joy and Attachment. Â
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they look at some of the obvious maturity holes you will see in adults if they have not fully matured through this stage of maturity.Â
In this episode, Tennison & Ginelle will begin unpacking the Infant stage of maturity and talking about the Needs and Tasks of this stage. If both the needs and tasks have not been completed, you will not be fully mature in this stage of life.
Join Tennison Ginelle as they begin Maturity Series: Revisited with an overview of each stage of maturity. Discover the primary goal and the needs and tasks of each stage. Also, get a glimpse of what you may see in adults who have not fully matured in each stage. Â
The Life Model and the Maturity Indicators are some of the pillars that have influenced and compelled us to create Table & Well. Those Maturity Indicators are the primary framework that almost everything we do is built on.
Life invited us to take a pause from recording the podcast. It became a little longer than we anticipated but during that time so much has been revealed to us and we can’t wait to start sharing it with you.
Ally George joins Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their deep drive into joy and quiet. In this episode, they will be talking about building your Quieting Capacity. Just like you need to build your Joy Capacity building your Quieting Capacity is just as important.Â
We find Joy in the faces of the people around us. The ability to sustain Joy is directly connected to the amount of Joy that is in our ‘Joy Well’ Join Tennison and Ginelle as they pick up their conversation about Joy. In this episode, they will talk about the finding Joy on the faces of others and Appreciation. Â
God designed us to live in and out of Joy. It truly is our natural state of being we have just forgotten. Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin a conversation about Joy and answer questions such as; What is Joy? Why is it so important? How do we get, keep and refill Joy? Â
God designed us to live in and out of Joy. It truly is our natural state of being we have just forgotten. Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin a conversation about Joy and answer questions such as; What is Joy? Why is it so important? How do we get, keep and refill Joy? Â
True transformation, healing, spiritual formation, and character development can only happen in community.Â
Listen in as Tennison, Ginelle, and Jason talk about, how to practically find peace in your body even after your mind has been quieted from the questions and anxiety that you may have been facing. They also, explore Jason’s passion for men in this day and age to be the men that God designed them to be. Â
Ally George has a passion for seeing people become free from fear and painful struggles by the power of the Holy Spirit! She loves the process of discipleship and coaching. She has been trained through Thrive Ministries and RARE Leadership in the understanding and development of relational skills.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they conclude their story. In this episode learn where Table and Well are today and what the future holds. Listen as they talk about Co-Labs and Community 101 and how their healing, growth, and simple yes to following God on this crazy journey has produced true, deep transformation in others. Â
Listen in as Tennison and Ginelle talk through the “origin story” of Table and Well, what the process was in the development, and how God was preparing them to launch Table and Well for over a year. Learn why the name Table and Well is so important to them and the meaning behind the name. Â
Listen in as their daughter, Liv (Alivya), joins them to openly and honestly unpack how her early years and her parents’ undoing affected her and their relationship. How their mutual growth and intentional conversations to face the hard things have repaired and restored their connection and relationship.Â
In this episode, they tell comical and relatable stories of setbacks and victories as they began to turn the corner in their marital connection. Listen in and discover the importance of creating Joy moments and learning the art of play and how they are needed for healthy, deep relationships.
This episode looks at how the lack of relational maturity skills and trauma contributed to the dysfunction in their marriage. You will also hear how Joy and connection begin the healing process in every area of their lives.
Over the next 4-5 episodes Ginelle and Tennison will unpack their continuing journey to relational health and maturity. You will learn where and how the journey started, how the lack of relational maturity skills and trauma contributed to the dysfunction in their marriage, and how it affected their children. You will also hear how Joy and connection begin the healing process in every area of their lives.
What do you do when you find yourself embedded in a narcissistic church culture? Should the leadership be removed altogether or can restoration happen and the leaders continue to lead? What would it take to change the culture? Who is at fault when narcissistic leadership emerges?
What do you do when you find yourself embedded in a narcissistic church culture? Should the leadership be removed altogether or can restoration happen and the leaders continue to lead? What would it take to change the culture? Who is at fault when narcissistic leadership emerges?
How do we get so caught up and miss what is actually happening right in front of our faces? How do we miss the people who are being hurt, disowned, and even excommunicated by the organization that we have given our lives to? How do we allow narcissism to run rampant in our churches and community?Â
Part 35 –  If living Whole-Brained is truly how God created us, why don’t we? Why does it seem so hard to live relationally? What are we missing, or is this really just an unrealistic utopian dream? Or does it simply come back full circle to maturity?
Part 34 – Tennison and Ginelle continue their conversation about practical skills that, when practiced, will help you live more relationally aware and mature. They will also talk about what your results could be when these skills are practiced.
Part 33 – If living Whole-Brained is truly how God created us, why don’t we? Why does it seem so hard to live relationally? What are we missing, or is this really just an unrealistic utopian dream? Or is it simply, we don’t have the relational skills?
Part 32 – In this episode, Tennison and Ginelle will be discussing what Whole-Brained relational mature pastors and leaders look like. What character traits that we should be looking for, and be seen, in our leaders. What is the purpose of the titles, Apostle, Pastor, Prophet, Teacher, Evangelist, that we give our leader
Part 31 – Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin to unpack Whole-Brained Christianity. In this episode, they will revisit the 4 ingredients for healthy soil and what a Whole-Brained church could look like.
Part 30 – Join Tennison and Ginelle as they discuss the ways to protect your community from the disease of narcissism, the importance of a mature community, and the formula needed to eradicate this disease from our churches, communities, and family.Â
Part 29 – Join Tennison & Ginelle as they discuss and dissect these two very different ways to operate in enemy mode, the effects of each, and what is happening in your brain and the brain of the narcissist while this is happening.Â
Part 28 – Self-justification can come in many forms, everything from, “You’ll never understand in a million years!” to “How dare you question me!” to ” God told me to do this.”Â
Part 27 – Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue to unpack the relational infection known as narcissism. What are the effects on the people who are under the leadership of a narcissist? Â
Part 26 – Believe it or not, we actually look for, find, put in leadership, and hire people with major narcissist tendencies and call them strong leaders and follow them blindly. All while there is a wake of destruction behind them. Â
Part 25 – How do shame and narcissism intersect? What happens when people are not taught how to metabolize shame? Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their conversation on the relational infection. In this episode, they will continue to unpack this disease and the motivations behind the actions and motives of the narcissist.
Part 24 – Narcissism may not be what you think is actually very easy to overlook and encourage. Sometimes it is hard to recognize until it is too late. The church, in its current structure, is the perfect breeding ground for narcissism to grow, thrive, and return if the relational connection of its people is not strong. Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin to unpack this insidious disease.
Part 23 – SIn this episode, Tennison and Ginelle finish their conversation on healthy correction by taking a good look at toxic shame and why it must be rejected at all costs! The power of shame was never meant to be welded the way most commonly do. But until God’s way becomes the norm, we must recognize and reject shame and correction that is toxic in its nature.
Part 22 – Shame is an emotion that God has hardwired into in our brain, so we must learn how to use it. Join us as we unpack this controversial thought and see how God has designed us to feel shame but not wear it.
