“Elders by definition have a really well developed right brain skill set…they know how to model a secure attachment,…attune to others emotions even if they don’t agree with what happened,…very good at seeing the gold in a person…” — Michel Hendricks
One thing is definitely clear: people, especially younger generations, aren’t abandoning faith; they are searching for real community.
We must be vigilant to keep our hearts clean by exercising grief and forgiveness.
“Gentle Protectors are willing to share in the pain that they create…Predators want to put their pain on you so they don’t feel any of it.” — Jen Coursey
Our door becomes a doorway to Christ when we welcome with joy, no matter how humble the meal or setting.
By loving others as we wish to be loved, we not only bless them but also find our own spirits lifted.
Positive relationships help you grow and contribute happiness and contentment to your life. They make life better.
In this episode, we talk about where the Wilkes are seeing God’s fingerprints in their community, and how they are practically creating opportunities for their community to experience real relational connection.
Come just as you are—bring your doubts, your wounds, your questions, and your hope.
People listen to others when they genuinely sense their care and concern.
As believers in Jesus, forgiveness is freedom from living as a victim. It is how we overcome!
In this episode, listen in as Lissa and Laran dive into the nuts and bolts of daily living and growing in these new relational skills.
We can love people enough to tell them the truth that can save their souls, even when that truth can cost us everything.
Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s prompting; God may want to use you to encourage a specific person at just the right moment.
A heart that is willing to bless rather than punish will have a greater impact on our divided relationships.
“We are told to love our neighbor as ourselves, but we are never told how to love ourselves…what we have learned through doing the Co-Labs with you, is what was intended… in how we were supposed to be cared for…” — Laran Wilke
We need to leave those who transgress us to the only One who can hold anyone to account.
You never know how or when God may orchestrate a change in circumstances for the better.
“When we started developing those (relational) skills, and becoming more relational toward her, (our youngest daughter), we became Gentle Protector for her. ” ~ Sylvia Snodgrass
Not everything needs to be agreed about for there to be love and joy and peace.
When we exhibit self-control, we exhibit the peace that accepts the things we cannot change — in this case, other people’s behavior.
Listen as they explain how Relational C0-Labs and its practices have brought them closer to God, themselves, and each other, how it has changed the way they connect to their adult kids, and how their kids have experienced their change.
The best place to find a mentor is right where you are… in your current sphere of influence.
No matter how liberal Christians spin it otherwise, there’s nothing heroic about being morally or ethically careless.
Grace does not mean letting someone continually abuse your kindness.
When I’m having a hard time loving someone, I ask God to remind me of His love for me.
Discover the true meaning of love and how attachment to each other and God is at the center.
I choose humility and admit my sin.
How can I know what it means to be forgiven, if I don’t even know what it feels like to forgive?
One thing that Britton and Michelle noticed was that no matter where they encountered others on this journey, there was one common thread: the struggle to connect relationally with those close to them.
I was able to reflect Christ’s heart and her value in my life by just being present.
Britton and Michelle are helping pastors move from “managing the institution” to a more life-giving form of ministry, where your home is the hub for worship, discipleship, and mission.
True friends—and true mentors—do not shy away from giving hard advice when it is needed.
“The way we often try to love people is by fixing them…If we can just be with them and learn how to be with them…that is what transforms people!” — Chris Frost
The effort you put into crafting these cards reflects the love and care you hold for your family.
From their Senior Leader on down, Chris Frost and Des Belford, Pastors at The Summit Church Edmonton, have seen a shift in relational connection and openness to each other.
Learning to navigate the realities of criticism isn’t easy, but it’s absolutely necessary.
Let us as individuals and as a community learn to celebrate the good fervently, with the same energy with which we’ve critiqued the bad.
If you know an older adult struggling with relationships, reassure them that you are in their lives and love them.
Listen in as the guests talk about how they have seen the Fingerprints of God transforming their own families and how the understanding of Joy, the gladness to be with, and simple tools and skills have deepened connection at their church.
As Christians, we are encouraged to live generously, not just in terms of money, but in grace and forgiveness towards others.
In the midst of fertilized conversations like these, people will often end up being honest and saying things that offend you deeply.
In this episode, they discuss what it looks like when Elders are leading from fear. They will also talk about Elders who are motivated by love can create communities where Love, joy, and trust are fully alive.
It is pretty magical when we decide to be encouragers; we feel encouraged. Encouragement feeds on itself.
Ultimately, the only way to not speak with haste is the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
You’re not your worst day. You’re not a headline. And, you’re not that one post from years ago.
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the 7-17-70 rule in community, and why know the stories of others are so crucial to feeling connected. Also, learn what his dream for community looks like in family and church.
God calls us to love one another even when—especially when—we hurt and disappoint.
Our task in conflict is to speak the truth in love, God’s job is to change hearts (including our own).
Faith is a journey, so it’s important that we give the next generation safe spaces where they can process their doubts.
In this episode, learn how Geoff and Cyd run together to bring wholeness and understanding to the body of Christ.
See how God’s fingerprints have transformed, strengthened and grown their marriages more that any of them could imagine!
Todd modeled for me what it was to be a Christian when I was just a teenager.
“…Life actully got a lot better when I could see him (Geoff), as he is and go, ‘Wow! You are fantastic the way God made you…” — Cyd Holsclaw
In a world where superficial interactions are the norm, choosing to engage deeply can counteract loneliness and build lasting relationships.
Inspiration can only come from intentionality and authenticity.
Be the church in every way, as both a force in the world and as a connected community of faith.
“In the last nine months or so, the atmosphere has shifted. The change hasn’t been a physically tangible thing that can be observed, but something is shifting… I’m going to be looking for that more.” — Jane Gamroth
Listen in as they talk about how being a part of Relational Co-Labs has changed the way they relate to God, themselves, and others.
Hit the pause button rather than the angry button, and choose to treat them like Jesus would.
Even Jesus set boundaries, told hard truths, and never allowed others to distort the nature of love for the sake of comfort.
Ken and Jane Gamroth take us on there journey to relational health and give us some insights on how it has transformedand and is transforming their marriage, family, and church!
Have you felt, just as I have, the Spirit prompting you to pray for someone, and you passed up the opportunity?
Learn how being in the Co-Lab has impacted Hannah Scaringi’s life and left the Fingerprints of God in all of her relationships!
God created us for fellowship, to share life with one another in His love.
Perhaps we fail to be honest and genuine with one another for fear of being found less-than-perfect.
Have the humility to be open to new thoughts and then seek out wise counsel from qualified men.
Listen in as Dr. Warner talks about the importance of building joyful social connection with elders and how healthy multigenerational community and toxic, and/or secretive multigenerational communities look very much the same but produce polar opposite results.
I pray for an open heart to not only give love but to receive it as well.
Paul builds a relationship and trust based on listening and treating others with respect.
In this episode, Hannah Scaringi shares some key personal insights that have changed how she sees and relates to God, herself, and others! Learn how understanding Joy has completely transformed her life.
Everyone who is faithful to their calling will experience rejection from some of those in their own group.
Dr. Warner gives incredible insight into his own personal journey to becoming an elder in his own right. What he shares is critical for all of us to hear today.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they conclude their conversation with Varinia Lauzon. Listen in as Varinia talks about her role in creating Table and Well in Español, and how this process is transforming her life.
After going through a season of rejection, connection has seemed to be the next step in the journey.
In the delicate dance of relationships, it’s crucial to approach each situation with grace, understanding, and a prayerful heart.
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection.
Choosing to love people we don’t even like is not merely a noble endeavor—it’s a reflection of the profound love Christ has for us.
Oftentimes, we make assumptions either because we’re afraid to acknowledge our deficiency or we’re too proud to own our ignorance and need.
“I am looking to make all relationships permanent…Whatever we grow together, I want to make sure that it is something we can keep and we can use as an example for other people on how they should live their lives.” — Dr. Jim Wilder
Your relationship with God guides you through sadness to a supernatural strength on the other side of loneliness.
It is your personal assignment to deliver the hope of Jesus to the world in which you live.
“The kingdom of God; we know it’s here when Predators or changed into protectors. That is the key sign of transformation. ” Dr. Jim Wilder
I choose Jesus over anger, and I’ll probably have to choose again and again.
We are created for community, for companionship, and for a love that uplifts, supports, and draws us closer to Him.
Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin this conversation and this series with Dr. Jim Wilder, neurotheologian, psychologist, and author whose groundbreaking work in relational brain science has shaped the way we understand community, joy, and emotional health and the reason Table and Well is doing the work they are.
The Lord will give us a greater understanding of the world around us and offer us a deeper mercy for those with whom we may disagree.
Discover the importance of having God-sight for you community as elders, and how connection with Holy Spirit is essential for the health and life of your community.
In this conversation, we’ll talk about how elders can serve as relational anchors, how spiritual maturity and emotional health go hand-in-hand, and how communities can better recognize and respond to the wisdom in their midst.
Show them you care about what they care about.
Whether you’re stepping into elderhood yourself or learning to receive from those who have gone before you, this episode will inspire you to reimagine what’s possible when generations walk together in wholeness.
The lesson for those of us who want to enjoy close relationships is to speak life to those we love.
What you choose to do can enrich and inspire, uplift and encourage, and possibly make your little part of the world a little brighter.
Help me to fix my eyes on You, even when others disrespect or disregard You.
When we choose to respond to hate with love, then hate can only smolder until it burns itself up.
“(Elders remind us)…we can do this. We can stay at the table a little bit longer than we think we can… We are going to push ourselves, (to stay present) a little bit beyond what we thought we could do, and that’s enough…” ~ Amy Glaser
“The reason a lot of that stuff, (trauma), happened in our family is because we didn’t know how to build joy, how to quiet together, or keep our relational circuits on.” ~ Amy Glaser
“Whenever two people come into a relationship or any situation, they are meeting history to history and nerves system to nerves system… only a small part of what seem to be happening in this external thing is about what is happening right now.” ~ Amy Glaser
These five habits share a common theme: they are oriented towards others’ well-being as well as your own growth.
The poisoned roots of pride, selfish ambition, slander, and gossip have resulted in noxious weeds that have ruined many relationships, families, and even churches.
