The Persecuted Church Within Our Pews and the Intimate Assassins Who Pretend to Love Them

Do not be fooled by a predatorial wolf pretending to be covered by the blood of Jesus, when it’s really just the blood of their victim.

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While I would never downplay the horrors the persecuted church around the world faces on a daily basis, I also can’t downplay the horrors that the persecuted church hidden within our pews face on a daily basis. The reality is, the persecuted church is not just those in a far-off land. The persecuted church also looks like the woman who attends church every week, sitting right next to her persecutor. You may not see marks on the outside of her body but guarantee she is silently hemorrhaging internally from violence committed against her heart and soul.

These intimate assassins prey on blind spots within the church to perpetuate their abuse. Knowing the values and morals of the Christian faith and possessing neither themselves, they often use these very things as a silencing noose of captivity around their victim’s neck.


Hard Truths the Church Must Embrace

As someone who is a huge proponent and supporter of a healthy marriage, I cannot accept the faulty teaching and devastating counsel so many women in abusive marriages often receive. I also cannot sit by and silently watch as wolves are allowed to roam freely within the church, using it as one more avenue to inflict harm on their victim.

I believe that God wants to uproot lies that have permeated the root system of our churches, perpetuating and sometimes even advancing the oppression and captivity of women whether intentional or not. We can’t afford to continue cultivating a mindset that holds the institution of marriage in higher regard than the safety of a woman in it. If saving a marriage is more important than saving a woman being abused in it, then marriage has become an idol.


A Few Hard truths that we must come to grips with are:
  • Pathological people exist.
  • Psychopaths are real. Sociopaths are real.
  • Just because he seems like a nice guy does not mean he actually IS a nice guy.
  • Wolves have infiltrated our churches and are often enabled in their toxic ways.
  • There are predators in the pulpit and in the pew.


An Epidemic of Abuse

The current statistic is that 1 out of every 3 women is being abused. While that statistic is staggering, the actual number is shockingly much higher due to the difficulty in recognizing this type of hidden abuse. These statistics are not just numbers; they are real women whose lives are at stake. She could be your mother, your sister, your daughter, or your friend. She could be the church worship leader, the faithful church greeter, or even the pastor’s wife.

We have an epidemic of abuse within our midst. The Church must become a refuge for the abused and oppressed. The first step toward change is acknowledging the existence of a problem. Wolves are freely roaming our churches. Victims are often re-abused within the church. An awakening is needed. Reformation is needed.

“Vindicate the weak and fatherless; Do justice to the afflicted and destitute. Rescue the weak and needy; Deliver them out of the hand of the wicked.” – Psalm 82:3-4


Intimate Assassins Unmasked

Intimate assassins usually do not look like monsters. They often seem like nice guys and are usually those you would least suspect. Just as the devil often portrays himself as an angel of light, these covert abusers can often seem quite charismatic and amiable. Having meticulously crafted their image over time, they often become pillars serving in the church, preaching great sermons, being a reliable usher every Sunday, or performing false signs and wonders, and sometimes even giving seemingly accurate “prophetic words” that are nothing more than soul reading and divination.

For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness.” – 2 Corinthians 11:13-15 ESV


Wolves In the Church

Like masters of deception, covert abusers take great pleasure in spinning a devious web of destruction around their victims. Psychological games, twisting scriptures, chronic lies, and false repentance often paralyze their prey as they continue to weave the threads of their web to insulate, validate, and justify their façade in order to escape exposure or accountability. Unafraid to cross moral boundaries, they often know just how far to take things before it’s technically breaking the law. Even then, their callousness can often cause them to cross that line.

There has to be time to inspect the fruit of a person’s life, as well as a process to determine whether someone is just a wounded sheep who needs love, care, and healing or a blood-thirsty predatorial wolf whose aim is to steal, kill, and destroy. Acting out of suspicion isn’t healthy but using wisdom and discernment is a must. Having balance is a must and but we cannot ignore the fact that wolves exist.

There is a big difference between a prodigal son who should be embraced and a blood-thirsty wolf who needs to be removed from the sheepfold. The Bible warns us about wolves and we are told in scripture to have nothing to do with them. We have to open our eyes to this reality and protect the innocent being harmed by them.

Do not be fooled by a predatorial wolf pretending to be covered by the blood of Jesus, when it’s really just the blood of their victim.


God’s House Should Be Refuge

Just as any good Father would want his house to be a place of safety for his children, I believe God also wants His house to be a place of safety for his children. As long as covert abusers are allowed to infiltrate churches and use blind spots to further their abuse, God’s house will not be a safe place for victims of abuse. God is love but He is also a God of justice. God’s eyes are on these women and His heart is for their freedom and healing.



This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Esther Company

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About the Author

Jennifer is passionate about seeing the Bride of Christ come into a greater place of purity and passion for Jesus and fully administrating His rule and reign in the Earth. Her mandate is to raise her children in the Glory of God and to see the Bride of Christ set ablaze. Her mission is to release the purity, truth, and beauty of God and her heartbeat is justice for the oppressed and freedom for the captive. She is also a “thriver” after years of covert narcissistic abuse. Jennifer is the Founder of Esther Company and Kingdom Wealth Creation & Strategic Solutions. Her most treasured role is being a mom to her four amazing children who reside with her in Lancaster County, PA.