It seems to me, that a great deal of our lives are spent on working emotionally through the “tough” stuff that has happened to us. For most of us, we can’t seem to get past the injustices, unfairness, and deep pain that have wounded our souls.
I’m right there with you.
I feel things deeply. I kind of have grown to love that about myself. I don’t just “lightly” love someone. I love them all the way to my toes. I feel pain not just like a pin-prick, but I feel it penetrate and go through me straight to my heart. That’s just the way I was created. I feel everything with great intensity. So, when I go through something particularly painful, hurtful, challenging, or a hurdle that stretches me to no ends – it can pretty much take over. I have to be mindful and intentional to not let it.
Life is full of disappointments. It’s full of situations where we end up being taken advantage of, for granted, and just plain used. Not everyone is going to see our value, potential, or core heart.
If we can acknowledge that, I think it’s a huge step in helping us come to terms with the bad things that happen to us. For just because something horrible may have occurred – doesn’t mean we need to keep living in that moment for the rest of our lives! I think the majority of us are still working through those issues; instead of moving on from them and letting them make us stronger people. And if that’s true like I think it is, the majority of people walking the earth are walking wounded.
There is so much more! So much more we could be doing, giving, learning, and getting from life! There is so much more to us than whatever “it” was that happened to us and with us! We don’t do ourselves or anyone else any favors by holding onto the past.
Instead of going through life 10, 20, or even 30 years past a traumatic event and still trying to mentally process and work it through – let’s try to let it go. We can say, “This is what I got and I’m going to make the most of it. I’m going to make the most of me!” Then, and only then can we transform and let the painful things become the growing things in our heart and soul. And I sure want that for myself. Don’t you?
This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Beauty in the Storm
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