I am beautiful.
This isn’t meant to be offensive, boastful, or self-obsessive. It’s just a description. I didn’t use to see the beauty in myself. I saw pictures of me as a child and didn’t see a beautiful little girl. I looked in the mirror and saw everything that wasn’t beautiful about me. Even deeper, I knew who I was on the inside, and I could see every flaw and sin that dwelled there, too. For most of my life, I did not believe that I was beautiful. It’s difficult to live life feeling like a blemish among the beautiful.
Imagine for a moment that you’re holding a new baby. This little one looks just like you did as a baby. She has the same hair color, same features, etc. You smell the baby’s head and savor that precious new baby smell. She looks at you with those sweet baby eyes and gives you one of those heart-melting baby smiles. She falls asleep in the comfort and safety of your arms, and then you realize that this baby is you.
What are your thoughts? Would you cry and apologize for the things that she would experience? Would you weep over the mistakes that she would make? Would you want to cling tightly to her to protect her from the life to come? Would you want to pray over her and encourage her to do the right thing even when it’s hard, choose kindness instead of anger, choose forgiveness instead of bitterness, and choose God sooner rather than later? Would you tell her that she is beautiful, loved, and precious in the eyes of God? I don’t know the thoughts of your heart, but you do and God does, too. Take a moment to consider these things and why you feel them.
I didn’t see the beauty in myself until I had my first daughter. She was so precious and beautiful, not necessarily because of any features she had but just because of who she was, my daughter. It broke my heart to think of her possibly growing up to think of herself as critically as I did of myself. But I also recognized that, if I wanted my daughters to recognize their God-given beauty and value, I would need to model it.
I would need to actually appreciate the body that God had given me if I actually wanted my children to appreciate their own. If I were to continue despising myself while telling them that they are beautifully and wonderfully made, loved by God, and precious in His eyes… I would be a hypocrite. Hypocrites are excellent at raising hypocrites more zealous than themselves. I had to choose to change my perspective.
A good place to start when you’re trying to change your perspective about yourself is with the Scriptures. For God’s word is true even if all others are false.
For it was you who created my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise you because I have been remarkably and wondrously made. Your works are wondrous, and I know this very well (Ps. 139:13-14, CSB).
So God created man in his own image; he created him in the image of God; he created them male and female (Gen. 1:27, CSB).
From now on, then, we do not know anyone from a worldly perspective. Even if we have known Christ from a worldly perspective, yet now we no longer know him in this way. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has come! (2 Cor. 5:16-17, CSB).
For he chose us in him, before the foundation of the world, to be holy and blameless in love before him (Eph. 1:4, CSB).
Look back at 2 Corinthians 2:16-17; we are instructed not to know anyone from a worldly perspective because anyone in Christ is a new creation. This includes ourselves! Oh, how we rejoice to see a loved one come to new life in Christ and savor who they are as a new creation. Do we forget to savor this grace and truth which also applies to ourselves?
You are a new creation in Christ. You are “holy and blameless in love before Him” (Eph. 1:4). You have been remarkably and wondrously made (Ps. 139:14). Can you, like David, say that you know this very well? Do you believe and trust in who God says that you are more than who you, your past, or the world says you are?
This article isn’t going to be a quick fix for you taking quiet confidence in who God says you are. This article isn’t going to erase all of those critical thoughts that you say about yourself day after day. But I hope and pray that this article will be one step forward in your battle for truly believing and living out who you are in Christ. Don’t look to worldly self-help suggestions or solutions when you’re struggling with seeing the beauty in who you are.
Look to your heavenly Father who lovingly and intentionally created you. Seek Him, speak to Him, and listen to Him! Our worth doesn’t come from stylish clothes, hair, perfect skin, a clean house, well-behaved children, etc. (you and I both know this list could go on and on). Our worth and value come from Him who created us, not just once but twice! I absolutely love this verse from the New Living Translation.
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago (Eph. 2:10, NLT).
We (you, me, and other believers) are God’s masterpiece. Isn’t that incredible! I would totally wear that on a t-shirt. But, infinitely more important than wearing it on a shirt, a piece of jewelry, or having it decorate a wall in your home, will you wear this truth in your heart and mind? Will you own it? Will you believe it? Will you speak it against the lies that come against you from the world and even from yourself? Will you boldly speak the truth in love to yourself and to your sisters in Christ who are struggling?
In Ephesians, we read about the armor of God. Part of having proper battle equipment includes having a weapon. Soldiers are not pacifists who are simply trying to block and deflect incoming attacks. No, they are called to take the fight to the enemy. The Scriptures tell us that our weapon is the sword of the Spirit, and what is this sword of the Spirit? It is the Word of God. We need to know and have the Word of God in our minds and hearts in order to use it. The word of God is truth, and the Word of God is powerful. Are you using it?
I don’t want this to be a motivational article that you enjoy and then forget about. If you are struggling with embracing your identity in Christ, don’t think that you have to fight this internal battle alone. Call up a sister in Christ and ask her to fight alongside you. Ask her to pray for you and do the same for her. Fight with the Spirit of Christ, the Word of God, and your sister(s) in Christ. Honestly, if you do this, how could the lies of the world or your past even hope to stand against you?
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up as you are already doing (1 Thess. 5:11, CSB).
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