Warlocks in the Church? Unmasking A Narcissist
Warlocks appear spiritual as they use their works to seduce women into their web.
Warlocks appear spiritual as they use their works to seduce women into their web.
When responded to in love and support, the church can be a source of healing and community.
Oneness in marriage does not erase the personhood of either spouse.
A narcissist will often strictly control or limit the spending ability of their victim while usually being either stingy or financially impulsive and reckless.
An abuser must have a mindset shift and a heart change for any real hope of lasting change.
As a church leader, I appeal to other pastors and leaders to be open to learning about a topic that may be new to you.
Making sense of what you are experiencing will allow you to validate the pain you have endured.
Choosing whether to stay with or leave an abusive spouse is a deeply personal decision that involves multiple factors.
God desires for you to not only live again, love again, and hope again, but to also trust again.
Marriage is meant to be a beautiful picture of Christ and the church, not a dehumanizing, oppressive prison.
The abuser demands their spouses reality and judgment be whatever they need it to be to get what they want.
Abusers live a lie. They have a public persona and they have a private reality–and the two are worlds apart.
When we receive false or destructive words as truth, we are coming into agreement with deception.
When people are recovering from abuse or trauma, I believe that deliverance from evil spirits is often a missing link in the healing process.
Narcissistic abuse is more than just harm inflicted on a person; it’s an open doorway for demonic oppression.
Our ability and willingness to set and enforce boundaries in our life can often be directly related to our self-worth.
In a loving, healthy, and godly marriage, boundaries are normal.
Covert narcissists often sabotage their victims by operating in stealth, almost undetectable, undermining ways.
Hearing similar stories can provide validation, make survivors feel less alone, and demonstrate that resilience and thriving are possible after narcissistic abuse.
To victims of abuse, compassion from others feels like an elusive or foreign concept; self-compassion is even more so.
Isolation could also include talking badly about certain people, slandering them, and falsely accusing them of things as a way to justify the separation.
A husband should have a heart posture that wants to see his wife thrive in her gifts and calling.
Victims of abuse often live under incredible shame, both while still in a toxic marriage or even after they may have left one.
Women in these toxic marriages may compare their marriage to another bad marriage and think that what they have experienced is “not as bad.”
The sad reality is that all of these things are happening inside of marriages in the church.
God’s design for sex is much different than what we have experienced, seen, or been told.
Keeping so many people fooled plays into the hand of the abuser because it makes the victim seem crazy for wondering if something is wrong.
Most times, spiritual narcissists demand honor and respect from others without ever making any real investment back.
They have no intention of following through on these promises and no moral dilemma in offering them.
When you understand the physiological effects of abuse, it’s easy to see why “just leaving” an abusive relationship takes herculean effort.
Excessive and irrational jealousy in a relationship should be a big red flag that something is amiss.
Many women in abusive relationships live in confusion and denial about the reality of what is happening.
Most times, the natural impulse is to minimize the abuser’s behavior in an effort to hold onto the dream of what the relationship could be or to simply keep the peace.
It is critical to be discerning and to learn to differentiate between flattery and true encouragement.
Abusers are not abusive toward everyone; they have targets with whom they connect and systematically destroy over time.
If you feel shattered or broken and your life is screaming the opposite of the promises God has given you, be encouraged!
Living with a Christian spouse who is addicted to porn is hell on earth.
One of the greatest ways that you can be a support is to encourage the victim to seek the Lord for next steps and encourage them to obey His leading.
An abusive relationship can break down and deplete a person on every level.
We are NEVER responsible for someone else’s actions, words, or feelings.
The very place the enemy has sought to sow bitterness and pain in your heart can become your greatest place of consecration before the Lord.
The Word of God is never meant to be used to control or oppress other people.
An abuser will use a myriad of tactics and will constantly be shifting and deceiving, depending on what is necessary to manipulate situations and maintain control.
When a woman is in an abusive marriage, the message she needs to hear is: “What’s happening to you is not okay, and it’s not your fault.”
Like a master puppeteer manipulating strings, narcissistic abusers take great pleasure in using endless mind games to control their victims and to provoke a desired outcome or response.
Remember that abuse is not simply about behaviors, but is rooted in deeply held beliefs and mindsets.
Maybe God wants us to go where He is—close to the brokenhearted.
A victim needs to first be clear on what their boundaries are—what is important to them—before trying to communicate that to others.
The very ones who were supposed to represent God turned a blind eye, walked on the other side, and went about their day.
If a narcissist feels they are losing control of their victim, they will often increase their attempt to bait a victim into a reaction.
While we don’t always get to choose the things we experience in this life and may sometimes feel powerless in situations, we do still have the power of choice.
Covert narcissistic abuse can break down and deplete a person on every level. Healing from this type of abuse is often a process that requires a holistic approach addressing the body, soul, mind, and spirit. Though there is no exact formula to heal, there are generally a few key aspects that can assist a victim […]
We must aim not just for life-long marriages, but for healthy, godly, and loving marriages.
Pursuing healing is no small thing; pursuing healing is an act of bravery.
Do not be fooled by a predatorial wolf pretending to be covered by the blood of Jesus, when it’s really just the blood of their victim.
Pain can be a terrible leader but is often a great compass, as it is usually key in revealing the next steps of a healing journey.
Like a master puppeteer manipulating strings, narcissistic abusers use endless mind games to control their victims in order to provoke a desired outcome or response.
The rhythm of His heartbeat is getting louder.