3 Must Have Marriage Habits

The real key to changing your life and your marriage is found in your daily habits.

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Do you have any habits in your marriage? Have you ever even thought about whether you do, and if so, what they even are?

There’s always been a whole lot of focus on motivation and goals, but the real key to changing your life and your marriage is found in your daily habits. It’s those little things you do—or don’t do, over time that impact your life the most.

If you want your marriage to last, a big part of that will be investing in habits that will encourage longevity. It’s about making daily, weekly, and monthly efforts in caring for one another and your marriage.

 3 Must-Have Habits

 Are you in the habit of treating one another with respect, or have you found yourself lately being kinder to strangers than each other? How you speak to one another is huge. Proverbs 18:21a tells us, “The tongue has the power of life and death”. Respect speaks life, disrespect doesn’t. Speaking life also avoids a lot of unnecessary conflict. If you want to learn how to do that in 3 minutes, check out How to Avoid Conflict in your Marriage in 3 Minutes.

Are you making physical contact each day, or are your heads hitting the pillows at night with the realization that you never shared one kiss or one hug all day—or maybe you just read this and had the thought that “I can’t even remember the last time we touched.”

Those good morning and goodnight kisses, those car ride handholds, and those hugs for no special reason add up over time and all make for healthy marriages. They also make for healthier and longer physical connections too! Don’t let a 5-second kiss be too much to invest—make physical contact a daily habit.

Lastly, are you communicating each day? Do you discuss your day, your thoughts, and your feelings with one another? Is your communication stagnant, or does it seem to keep getting stolen by the busyness of running a home and having children?

Good communication breeds great connection, and great connection breeds trust, marital satisfaction, and longevity.


Take a moment to pause and evaluate your daily habits and ask yourself what direction they’re taking you and your marriage in? Is it a direction you want to go?

Next Step–Discuss this topic with your spouse.



This is an updated edition of a post originally published on Expedition Marriage 

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About the Author

Chris and Jamie Bailey are professional Christian counselors and marriage coaches. They run their private practice as well as online ministry, Expedition Marriage, from their home in Fort Mill, SC. They are the parents of three adult daughters and two adorable grandchildren. Together they run weekend marriage retreats, offer guest speaking, one day seminars, as well as run workshops in person and online. Together they hope to encourage Christian marriages and help them thrive abundantly.